The Saga - Final Post

I think I'm done with reporting on all this...well...I guess the best description would be...

pathetic?

sad?

unbelievable?

stupid?

...drama. Well, wonder boy is back with his wife. His "girlfriend" dumped him for cheating on her. Although he tried to make her believe he only kissed the other woman. Considering the eye witnesses to the truth, I don't know how he could of thought he'd get away with it.

Does his wife know everything? I don't know. I just hope she finds peace and happiness in her marriage again. She is a sweet person who didn't deserve any of this.

Unbelievable

Unbelievable...I won't blame you if you don't believe what I'm about to write.

Back home this past weekend Dave had his "big party". With sarcasm I say that it was his way of deciding the future of his marriage.

(If you don't know what I'm talking about, click on "the saga" on the left margin).

He promised not to invite Sandra to the party - and he kept his word there. Apparently most of the gang went. A long with some co-workers of his. It was a nice night and they spent most of the time in the back yard with people going in and out of the hot tub. Alcohol was flowing and Dave wasn't holding back.

Okay..here is what my best buddy Judy told me. It will sound insane, but apparently it is true.

It was after midnight and almost everyone was still there hanging out in the back yard. Dave disappeared and no one thought much about it. That is until a few people soaking in the hot tub noticed the hall light in the house go on. The hot tub sits under the master bedroom window.

Can you guess where I'm going with this???

The bedroom blinds were not fully closed and with the hallway light shining into the bedroom they have a front row view of Dave and a female co-worker. Lets just say the guys were impressed with this girls flex ability.

Unbelievable.

I guess the majority of people decided to head home at this point. A couple of the guys stuck around to let Dave know what everyone saw. People were pretty pissed off and disgusted with him.

Seriously, this just perplexes me on so many levels...

Happy Long Weekend

Our weekend has started off with a .... well, I guess you could say a "fizzle". My dear husband arrived home from his business trip late Thursday night. Today he caught up on yard work. I ran around with the kids doing errands. The rest of our weekend should (hopefully)be more exciting. One of our neighbors is hosting a barbecue tomorrow night. We've only been here a year and haven't gotten to know our neighbors very well yet. This will be a good chance to get to know a few of them better.


The Saga

Tonight is Dave's big bash. Yeah...he is suppose to be deciding if he wants to work on his marriage (and end his affair). So, yeah, a party sounds like the right thing to do. Of course when you think of it, he hasn't done much right lately. So why change now? Crazy.

His wife Jen is off to the spa with a few of our friends. I hope she can enjoy herself.

Coffee

I was out this morning running errands with the kids. My reward for being productive was going to be a stop at Starbucks. My last stop was at Safeway, where Starbucks conveniently is. As I stood in line waiting to pay for my groceries all I could think about the coffee I'd soon have in my hand. With that said, how in the heck did I drive back home, unpack the groceries and throw a load of laundry in before I realized I forgot to get my coffee??


Saga Update:

So a few of my friends from back home are going to a spa this weekend. A two day spa experience! It sounds so wonderful. I have never done anything like that, so I have to admit I am a little jealous.

Of course the reason this spa weekend is happening is to give Jen a chance to get away. She is still hoping things will work out for her and Dave. From what I hear he wants to host a party while she is away. Their kids are staying at Jen's mother's for the weekend. Jen is upset, because he is suppose to take this time to figure out what he really wants (as it appears Sandra is still in the picture). Last I heard she agreed to the party as long as Dave promised that "she" wouldn't be there. My best bud Judy and her husband have been invited. I guess he has invited our gang of friends, plus some buddies he works with. Judy doesn't want to go. Our group is sort of stuck in the middle. Personally it would be hard for me to socialize with Dave right now. How can he think about partying when his wife is in pain due to his affair that may or may not be over? Sometimes I just don't get people.

~ Sigh ~

It's Saturday evening and I just got the kiddos into bed. Now is "my time" to do as I please (or as little, depending on how you look at it). It is actually kind of sad as I look around. The house is a disaster. I should at least attempt to do some tidying up. Yeah...it isn't going to happen.

My dear husband is away on another business trip. So it is just going to be me and the TV remote tonight. Sort of sad...considering it is a Saturday night and all. Still, I'm not complaining. It was a long (very long) day with the kids. They always seem to act up when their dad is out of town. I know they just miss him. Why do they have to take it out on me though?

Well...I guess I can update you on the saga going on back home. In fact I'm going to start labeling all my posts regarding this as "The Saga". So feel free to click on the link on the left hand side if you are new and confused about what I'm about to write about.

I want to make it clear that I don't want to minimize or make fun of the situation. I don't know...it just seems therapeutic to write about it. I mean, seriously, it could happen to any of us. We don't think it could...but I bet at some point in all our lives we've been cheated on.

Sandra and her husband are indeed broken up. I don't see that changing. People from her camp are saying she is still involved with Jen's husband Dave.

With that said, people from Jen's camp claim she and Dave are trying to work on their relationship. If you ask me Dave is a complete jerk. It appears (to me any way) that he thinks he can keep them both. Men! Okay, not all men...still... I don't know what to say. This just wouldn't surprise me about Dave. We've all heard the stories that he cheated on Jen when they were dating. He was "young and dumb" back then... So...after 11 years of marriage he does it again. Maybe this wasn't even the first time. We don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

I just can't imagine what is going through Jen's mind. I feel so bad for her. She must be so hurt and heart broken. Plus to have it so public within our group of friends too. It is just sad.

Any way, a few friends are taking Jen away next weekend to a spa. It will be a nice get away over the labor day weekend. I wish I could join them. I am so out of the loop and can only offer limited support from here. I just hope Jen can relax and enjoy herself. She deserves it.

Now, On a lighter note, you'll have to excuse me as I have a double date with a bowl of popcorn and the TV.

I Never Noticed

I never noticed how many dishes my family used until our dishwasher broke. My husband hasn't given up hope that he'll be able to fix what ever is wrong with it. This means I'm washing dishes by (gasp) hand! Oh the agony!

There is another update on my friends back home. I guess Sandra (the other woman) and her husband have broken up. From what I hear it hadn't been good between them for a couple of years. Sandra and (Jen's husband) Dave's relationship started off innocent and completely platonic. They'd email each other occasionally at work and then started meeting for lunch now and then, since they both work downtown. Our group was close and we know each other's spouses pretty well. In the beginning they didn't keep their lunch dates a secret from their spouses. As it was no big deal. I guess at some point it became an emotional affair that later turned physical. I don't know how true this is, but apparently Sandra is hoping Dave will leave Jen for her.

It is so easy for me to report like this is the latest news on Brittany Spears. Yet I know this is real and complicated and a lot of people are in pain. I feel bad for everyone really. I know everyone and it is hard for me to understand. I don't want to judge them, as I have no right too. I believe they are good people and loving parents.

Our close group of friends are very angry and are taking sides with Jennifer and Ben (the betrayed ones). Sandra must feel very a lone right now. This is just a sad, sad situation.

Just Another Day

Last night our dishwasher broke down. It is less then a year old, so I'm more then a little annoyed. My dear husband thinks he can fix it. Yet he can't even figure out what is wrong. Men! Any way, I was too lazy last night to wash the dishes by hand, so this morning I went to fill up the kitchen sink. Except I couldn't find the plug. Don't laugh! It is seriously missing. I'm lazy and basically stick everything in the dishwasher. So I rarely wash dishes by hand...still the plug should be under the sink. I pulled everything out and it is no where to be seen. Great.

Speaking of luck...I guess I'm lucky I'm not my friend Jen from back home. My best bud Judy emailed me last night. I guess the affair rumors are not so far off. It is still hard for me to believe though. Sandra (another member of my old group who is married with 3 kids) supposedly had a short term thing with Jen's husband.

I don't know how to make anyone who reads this blog understand. All I can say is Sandra doesn't seem the type. Maybe there isn't a "type" when it comes to this thing. I was always under the impression she was happily married. So for her to not only cheat, but cheat with a friend's husband.... I just can't wrap my head around it.

I'll share Judy's email.


Hey -
Sorry I couldn't call you today - the kids have been driving my crazy and I just didn't have two seconds to myself all day. I guess I shouldn't complain since at least they weren't throwing up all over me like yours have been doing.

Anyway - I wanted to share the latest with you (at least, this is the latest that I know. It's moving fast and furiously though so who knows how much more to the story there really is). Are you sitting down?

Sandra was having an affair with Jennifer's husband! Can you even believe it? So much for the christian value of not coveting your neighbors wife. Ho - ly! I guess it all started this spring when we had that bbq over at Shel's house. Dave and Sandra were talking at a table but of course no one gave it much thought. Apparently that's when they "hit it off" so to speak and then it was a fairly quick trip to sin-city.

Here's the REALLY sad part though. Emmy was the one who blew their cover. Apparently she innocently walked into a scene that no child should see - their father kissing another woman! Can you imagine????? She must have asked her mom about it or mentioned it or something because the next thing we knew Sandra and Jennifer were bickering like you can only imagine. It has NOT been pretty! I'm not sure what is going to happen from here. Dave swears it's over and meant "nothing" and plans to stay if Jen will let him. And I have no idea how Ben is taking any of this. I can't say I'm doing all that much talking with Sandra. If there is a side to take in this (and I think there is!) I'm firmly planted on Jen's side. Whoa!

Is this unreal or what???

The Fog is Clearing

The fog (being lack of sleep) is starting to clear. The kids finally slept through the night last night. This allowed me some much needed uninterrupted sleep. I think they are both finally over that flu bug (knock on wood). At least it happened now and not the first week of school.

Any way, I've been pretty much walking around in a haze the past 4 days or so. It's nice feeling semi-human again. It's also nice to see the kids acting like kids again. Even if that includes fighting with each other. They have had it the toughest and they were both real troopers.

As for my mama drama...I don't know. I'm glad I live far away and can stay uninvolved. There are rumors of course. The juicy kind too. Cheating spouses, cover-ups and the like. I don't know how true it is at this point. It is interesting though...